How do you lick a woman's vagina, what are the best techniques?

The best,.. starts with the back (,… the very best starts in the shower). Full back rub top to bottom of feet. Roll over. Out each arm and spend time with each hand, kissing each of the fingertips. Message the forehead, cheeks, shoulders, round the breasts (you can cup, but do not touch the pointy bits), midsection, down a leg to the toes, back up (brush the bush), down the other leg. Back up and turn over for a full bottom rub. Then work the top of the leg, hip and lower bottom, spreading cheeks a bit and rubbing down towards the thighs brushing the goal.

You're 10-20 minutes in. Back over, go back up and rub the shoulders just above the breasts and brush the pointy bits with your arms, occasionally. Little kisses here & there. Moving down again, spends more time around the breasts, brushing (but not grabbing) the pointy bits and kisses up down and around, but no sucking.

Midsection again and this time spend time on a uterine massage (lower tummy). After some time there, you'll push down towards the thighs again, brushing the bush more frequently.

If the legs aren't 120 degrees (or more) at this point, you can simply go back up to the upper areas.

Otherwise, you move down along the thigh area and continue the massage focused in that area. Need I say don’t touch anything? Move between the legs and continue rubbing above the bush, along the thigh and down to the buttocks for several minutes, each side. Then stop, sit up and run from the knees/thighs up the chest and back down. If you’re naked at this point, as you run up to the chest, your little helper brushes the thighs. Then back down to the legs, NOT TOUCHING ANYTHING, you kiss and rub. Thighs, buttocks (yep you kiss her butt), over the bushy mound. NOW, you are going back up towards the chest with kisses and a bit of tongue. Some pointy bits play then up the neck and first with your nose, then tongue, behind the ear. If she is into that, nibble along the outer edge of the ear, get the lobe fully in your mouth then head back down (DON’T KISS HER). More pointy bits play, around with the tongue then little sucking (advanced course may use the teeth a bit, but not now). More uterine message then I like to sit up and rub her hips while I press against her lower areas.

Back down and more kissing, this time wet kissing, licks here and there. Drag nose or chin across brushing gently. Warm exhaling as you go.

Now at this point, you might find an extra pair of hands helping out so pay attention to them. Kisses up and down, brushing what they’re helping with. Licks and flicks between the fingers as if they are legs. As you run a tongue down the fingers, now brush against the target, but briefly. Up and down each a couple of times.

Now I should caution, those hands may move to your ears and yikes, that yank hurts but teasing is fun!

So the last time off the hands and across the target, keep heading south. Now you recall during the back rub, you spread the cheeks? You were checking out things. So based on that judgment, start with the nose at the perineum and tongue out and down (it's not gross, get used to it) in little swirls all the way up. Your nose should brushing things all the way above the mound with a follow through by the chin. On the way back down, go left or right. Save the middle every other or third trip up. Vary between point tongue and wide broad tongue. The key here is variety (everything has spam in it!). After up and down to get things going, you’ll want to back and forth on the target and sort of zigzag. Back to kissing outside the target zone up the leg, and then quickly back in. The back of the knee of all places should be visited.

Now, not everyone is aware of the ABCs, but the last thing you want is to have her friends hear “he did the ABCs and was even humming the song”. So while it is an excellent idea to keep things random, I do not recommend them. BUT, there are letters that are exactly what you want to get from where you are to where you haven’t been in a while. So think cursive, think big circles, and DO NOT dot any i’s nor cross any T’s. A modified Y, Os, Ps (of course), upside down Ps, V (upside down), sort of a Z, J, N is a goodie. Mix those up with wide and pointy tongue. If you haven’t had your nose down south in a while, go down and up sllooowww. Exhale deeply as you go.

Now keep in mind here, the goals is wet and soft for the first O. As you start to see the breathing become rhythmic (you are watching, looking up at the face, her hands and at the stomach) check out what things are working and become repetitive with those. Break it up by going down south, then back to focus target. You might suction lightly, but don’t wear that out. Your hands should be in spreading the forest (even if there is none), and brushing gently while you’re off elsewhere. Start to tease the tongue inside, but just. Going up it is easier to slide inside a bit, and flicker the lips while heading down (either side keep it random).

As the O vercomes, repeat what was going on and press slightly harder. It may or may not be a head grabber, but that wasn’t the goal, just break the ice. So very lightly tongue and soft kissing as that subsides. Stay there so she knows you’re not going anywhere (wrap your arms around her legs). You can also go up for some mouth exploration while your hand remains. But now it’s time to get busy. Fingers are going places and that tongue is no longer bashful or soft. Bring it out as far as you possibly can.

If you have not researched the Gspot or squirting, head off for some research, but remember, the goal is not pushing buttons just using motions (2 finger come hither). Very important you walk away with the understanding of CLEAN and WELL TRIMMED. So still exhaling and harder tongue, the fingers start to wander. Follow the same randomness of the letters but mix it up between tongue, finger, and sucking (noise here seems to help things). Run the tongue up the middle several times and the finger should be plenty slippery before proceeding. Slide down the middle several times, probing further in each time. Slideing further in as you slide down, NO POKING! Because of the angles, it is difficult to slide palm up, up without hitting nail (avoid nail).

Work towards multiple fingers, as tongue goes up, press in and down, thumb can wander south. Other hand can go round and down, or up towards the chest, or help with the forest (if there isn’t another set there to help). Take a break with the researched techniques then back down. You can also use the finger techniques she uses (if you haven't watched her, ask her to show you next time,.. NEXT time). Vacuum the lips, and hood (suck them in then pull your head back slowly at first releasing as you go, reverse spagetti slerp sort of thing). Fingers and tongue going in as far as possible. Lather, rinse, repeat.

O2 and she isn’t going anywhere? Further exploring south needs lots of lubrication. Fingers Yes, tongue is up to you, but trust me,.. go in. Maybe O3 is best left under advanced techniques, there's lots more there. See also small mechanical devices.

Licking Vaginal Dryness Without A Prescription

Vaginal dryness is a symptom that women find most annoying. It is most associated with menopause, but it also occurs due to childbirth, stress, or birth control pills. It may be a problem during sex only, or it may cause an itching or burning sensation all the time. There are many ways to deal with the problem. Which one an each woman chooses depends on: how quickly she needs lubrication, what her sexual desires are, whether or not she wants to make a trip to the drugstore, convenience, and what other menopausal or gynecological problems she has.

Do It Yourself (or Have Him Do It)

More Water, More Sex
A woman can't make her own secretions without adequate fluid intake. Frequent sexual stimulation alone or with a partner keeps the flow going.

Clitoral Stimulation
A midlife or older woman's times ability to lubricate is not gone, it simply takes longer and requires more stimulation. Manual works fine. The woman or her partner can do it. Oral works better and faster. It can take 45 minutes to an hour. It is not a quick solution, but if a woman needs longer to become lubricated, she needs about the same amount of time to become aroused and her clitoris erect for orgasm. To shorten the time needed by using one of the replacements might be synonymous with having sex for a partner's pleasure primarily.

Saliva
Yours or his is fine. Apply it by licking a finger and then rubbing the finger on the vulva and then inserting it inside the vagina. CAUTION: Many mid-life and mature women also have problems with repeated Urinary Tract Infection due to changes in the entire urinary and genital areas with menopause. Some Reproductive age women are prone to urinary tract infections also. Saliva can introduce bacteria into the urinary tract and increase this problem.

Cunnilingus
Cunnilingus is oral sex on a female. It's essentially clitoral stimulation and saliva together. The best "bang for the buck" as far as speediness and effectiveness. The pros and cons are the same as above. A woman is likely to have one orgasm during cunnilingus, and another during genital intercourse.

Re-define Sex
The Baby Boom generation and older tends to think of sex and penile-vaginal intercourse. But, sex can be anything designed to bring a woman to orgasm. Oral or manual stimulation need not be thought of as the means to lubricate for genital intercourse. They can be a means to orgasm by themselves. A woman's same age partner may be having trouble with his erection and also appreciated broadening the definition of sex.

The Lubricants and Moisturizers
Unlike skin moisturizers and lubricants, they contain no oils. This is important as vaseline and other oil-based lubricates can disrupt the normal vaginal enviroment. Oil-based will degrade condoms. All will kill sperm and decrease chances for conception. The choice will be based on price, convenience and packaging, and composition of the product.

Here's a website lamenting the fact that K-Y doesn't come with instructions and giving suggestions. http://www.csclub.uwaterloo.ca/u/wwiewior/ky.html

Here's some serious instructions for those who choose whichever in a big tube. Put a big glob, about the size of a nickel on the tip of the index finger. Reapply whenever needed. Start by spreading both the inner and outer lips of the vulva with the finger, lubricating as you go. If there is any tissue sticking together, gently rub the finger with the lube in the center of the two lips while pulling back on the outermost lip at the same time. Make certain sure the area between inner and outer lips and between the inner lips is lubed. Then, starting at the vaginal opening make a circular upward spiraling inside the vagina. Also, instead of or addition to the vaginal application, grease the penis up.

KY Jelly
The old stand-by, K-Y. It is water-based. It is the cheapest and most easily found. It typically comes in large tubes and must be applied manually. There are single use tubes and foil packets, but these are difficult for the public to buy and are mostly used in clinics. Asking the doctor for a few is about the only way to get the "travel size". It is not the same pH as the vagina. If a woman is prone to trouble with yeast or bacterial vaginosis, she may want to stick to the lubricante made specifically for vaginal use.

Astroglide
It was invented by NASA or something like that hence the name. But it is water-based. It comes in tubes or pre-packaged single use amounts in an applicator. The woman inserts the applicator like a tampon and pushes the plunger. This makes it much easier to get the distant part of the vagina. However, the woman will need to save some of the applicator's contents or get a tube to lubricate the vulva. The package is called Silken Secrete. It is about the same pH as the vagina.

Replens
This product causes the vagina to absorb water. It is called a polycarbophil. It is meant to be used on a daily basis, not just at intercourse. Studies have shown it to be as effective as vaginal estrogen creams.

Herbs, Vitamins, and Other

Herbs
The homeopathic agents with claims of relieving vaginal dryness are: belladonna, bryonia, and lycopodium. Herbs are dong quai or motherwort for about a week. There is no scientific research supporting or refute these claims. Ginseng has some limited scientific support for effectiveness in vaginal dryness.

Vitamin E
Some women open a capsule and squirt the oil in the vagina. The regimen is daily for the first week or so, then once or twice a week. As it is an oil, break-down of condoms, overgrowth of bacteria, or other disruption of the normal flora are issues. While adequate oral vitamin E intake has long been associated with healthy skin, there is nothing to suggest that using E vaginally is any more effective than any plain oil.

Soy
Soy flour (6 tablespoons) and flaxseed (2 tablespoons) have been shown to improve vagina moisture. This is thought to be from the natural estrogen-like actions of soy and flaxseed. If a woman needs or wants to avoid estrogens, then this is not a good option. It takes about six weeks to kick in.