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Cunnilingus A Guide to Orally Stimulating the Vulva

Cunnilingus is perhaps the most enjoyed form of partner sex women engage in. Nothing can compare to the feeling of a warm wet tongue sliding across a woman's vulva and clitoris. With the exception of masturbation, oral sex probably results in more female orgasms than any other sexual practice.

Young girls are expected to be very neat and clean. Boys can go out and get dirty but girls must keep their cloths and body clean. Girls are taught to always look attractive and smell sweet. This is less true than it was twenty years ago, but there are still many women who feel they must remain clean and free of perspiration even when engaging in strenuous physical activities. On top of this, there is a lot of negative stigmatization attached to "feminine hygiene." Particularly in the United States, personal hygiene product advertising has led people to believe any smell or fluid originating from the human body is bad; this simply is not true. These practices and believes create a barrier to oral sex for many women, as their genitals produce moisture and emit a distinctive scent. It is not surprising then that many women feel they have dirty smelly genitals when in fact they have perfectly normal and healthy genitals.

If a woman is to permit oral stimulation of her genitals she must first come to accept her normal bodily functions. Her vulva is moist because her vagina and vulva are constantly cleansing themselves. Beginning at puberty, the vagina washes itself by producing a clear to whitish colored flow having a watery to sticky consistency. This acidic flow keeps bad bacteria in check to help prevent infection. A woman may become sexually aroused and experience increased vaginal moisture without knowing she is aroused, only feeling wet. In addition, women produce their own scent, a chemical signature that indicates not only who they are as an individual, but also their current reproductive and sexual state. While our noses may have lost the ability to detect these scents at great distances, I have read men become sexually aroused when exposed to them. In actuality, a "clean" vulva is a unhealthy one, a moist vulva with its own aroma is a healthy one.

There are times when the vulva may smell or taste unpleasant. This may result when the normal moisture from the vagina collects in the folds of the vulva. As a result of poor air circulation around the genitals, evaporation of excess moisture cannot occur. Since bacteria love warm moist places, they can reproduce rapidly in this environment, resulting in a strong odor, and perhaps taste. The bacteria cause the odor, not the vaginal moisture. Since women today generally wear clothing that prevents adequate circulation of air around their genitals, it may be necessary for a woman to rinse her genitals with plain water prior to engaging in oral sex. This goes for men too. A shower or bath in preparation for sex is often a good idea, especially if either partner has not bathed in several hours. There are men and women who enjoy a strong scented vulva; it is a matter of personal taste.

If a woman feels her genitals smell or taste bad, she should ask her partner what they think. They may enjoy the smell that she finds unpleasant. If a woman's genitals do smell unpleasant, it could indicate the presence of an infection. I have read where a woman's partner may know even before she does that she is developing a yeast infection. If a woman knows or feels her genitals have a strong or offensive odor she should seek a doctor's advice. The often joked about "fishy" smell is not an indication of a healthy vulva.

Perhaps the best way for a woman or teenager to come to accept and learn her normal healthy genital scent and taste is to smell and taste her fingers while masturbating. A woman's genital flora will change with her current menstrual state, level of sexual arousal, and depending on her diet. If a woman does this on a daily basis she will be more aware of her general health. If a woman knows her normal scent and taste, a quick check will tell her if she needs to bathe prior to oral sex, or seek medical treatment.

Frequently couples find the practice of trimming or shaving a woman's pubic hair facilitates cunnilingus. There are women who find cunnilingus more enjoyable and personal hygiene easier when they are clean-shaven. There are couples who prefer a full growth of pubic hair. Shaving or trimming the pubic hair is a matter of personal choice, not a requirement of cunnilingus.

Contrary to common belief, and many women's expectations, cunnilingus is not a natural skill that every man and lesbian is born with. Cunnilingus is a learned skill. If you do not take the time to teach or learn this skill, you will never fully enjoy the benefits. Every woman is different, so no matter how good someone was at giving a woman oral pleasure in the past, they still need to relearn their technique if they change partners. Women cannot compare notes tit for tat as they are never exactly the same in likes and dislikes. There are physical and psychological reasons for this. While everyone would like to read a detailed "How-To-Guide," there is no way of creating one that is accurate for all women. At most, one can only give ideas and basic hints. Finding and reading women's first hand accounts is perhaps the best way to get new ideas, but the individual woman is the only one who can tell you what is enjoyable for her and works best.

Communication is very important to pleasurable cunnilingus, and sex in general. A woman must guide her lover in the same manner as she would guide a blind person driving a car down a busy city street, with a lot of detailed and accurate instruction. While women often feel uncomfortable giving out sexual commands and demands, they need to be sexual "drill instructors" if they expect to get what they want and need in bed. The guidance can come in the form of verbal commands, auditory sounds, hand gestures, and body movements. Auditory sounds are very useful, especially if the receiving woman is hesitant, feels "pushy" giving commands, or doesn't want to distract herself from feeling her pleasurable sensations by trying to speak. If the situation is private and/or soundproofed, vocal sounds can provide a lot of feedback if the recipient wants to give it; oooing, cooing, moaning, purring, trilling, grunting, panting, shouting, screaming or singing in a variety of volumes and speeds in response to what she likes can speak volumes and "play" your pleasure giver's mouth like a remotely-controlled musical instrument duet. If something feels good, say "Yes," if something does not, tell them what does. Always be positive. Grasp your lover's head with your hands and guide their mouth to where you want it. If you want them to stay put, wrap your legs around them and hold their body in place. While women fear chasing a partner away by being too demanding in bed, they can also lose them if they are totally unresponsive to their lover's efforts. The person performing cunnilingus should look into their partner's eyes for guidance, asking her if she likes what they are doing. Women should be honest with their partner, never faking pleasure or orgasm.